Being human it’s our nature to get angry, annoyed and stressed, but trust me parents can really control this thing in children, I still remember that when I was a child my mother never allowed me to meet people who used to fight or argue, even if there were some fights of people on streets my mother didn’t allow me to listen or watch, and this habit of getting angry never appeared in my personality till yet.
We cannot learn from one another until we stop shouting at one another – until we speak quietly enough so that our words can be heard as well as our voices.
Richard M. Nixon
A study from the University of East Anglia, scanned the brains of 58 teenagers aged 17 to 19 – and asked their parents to recall any family negativity between the child’s birth and the age of 11 (such as raised voices, aggression, or physical violence). The results? Those who had experienced family discord in their formative years had a smaller volume of grey matter in the brain, particularly the cerebellum (which has been linked to problems such as impaired learning, anxiety, schizophrenia, depression and bipolar).
Dr. Helen Rodwell is a consultant clinical psychologist, specializing in families dealing with domestic violence.
She argues that there’s no clear-cut answer; the vital thing is to be aware of any row crossing the line into stressful, or abusive, territory.
“Ask yourself what tone you’re using,” she advises. “Is this a healthy argument? It is possible to show children how to express their feelings and give them a model of how to debate, compromise and listen. But be aware of any fight becoming controlling. That’s when stress can occur and – studies have shown – effect a child’s developing brain.”
Dr. Rodwell also says that age is a consideration.
“Even a baby or toddler will react to loud voices or anger,” she explains. “But they don’t understand the family culture enough to know whether it’s a safe situation, or not – whether the argument is a rare occurrence or a regular thing.”
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